Quite often, when you are on a path to self improvement or healing, you are faced with different kinds of challenges that are both internal pertinent to your own thoughts and feelings, but also external relevant to your circumstances and social circles.
As much as we like to believe that our support system will in fact be very supportive of our journey, most times you will be met with those who feel threatened by your own growth. Probably because they feel your growth will not include them.
In this case, we may sometimes fall into the guilt trap and tone down our light so we don’t make others feel left out. We may choose to keep it to ourselves and not allow our new and improved self to influence how we show up in the world.
Other times, we may feel resentment and anger for the lack of support and lose the very balance we have been working on.
While most people look out for what’s in their best interest, you on the other hand might feel that doing just that will make you a selfish person.
I personally have always believed that selfishness is a frowned upon trait, until I stumbled upon the term “SELF-ish”. Which I have interpreted to mean this:
Always choose what feeds your growth, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else’s.
So How Can You Stay Strong on Your Journey?
You need to have two different, yet equally important, sets of eyes
1. Bull’s Eyes
These eyes are always focused on your short term goals, habits, targets…etc. You need these eyes because they set the tone of your days.
I personally have a set of daily and weekly habits and goals that I know when I stick to them, I feel more centered and grounded.
Being grounded is very important when you are on any journey to self improvement and healing, it supports your commitment to your goals and gives you a boost of self confidence.
If you think about it, change and self improvement don’t happen in big leaps, they happen on a daily basis, that’s why you need your bull eyes to keep you on track on a daily basis.
What about those who feel threatened by your growth?
Well, I realized that when I have a set of habits and daily goals that I am happily working on, I am immune to distractions and to any criticism and disapproval. It’s like I am shielded from negativity, because just like a bull, I am focused on my target.
2. Bird’s Eyes
These are the eyes you look through to see the big picture, your life vision so to speak.
When you know how you want your life to look like, say in 5 years, everything you are doing now will make sense to you.
You know where you are headed and why you are committed to your short term goals to begin with.
Having such a view, will motivate you to take the smaller steps and embark on all the stepping stones that will lead you there
The image that I have drawn for my future life, has helped me make the right decisions today, and has guided me to choose wisely that which nourishes my growth.
Let’s Simplify and Take Action
What can you do to maintain focus on a daily basis and not lean-in to peer pressure or other distractions?
- Incorporate simple daily habits that contribute to your level of focus and efficiency. I meditate and journal everyday
- Have daily habits that contribute to your health.
- Set goals and habits that contribute to your intellect.
- Have short term goals that contribute to your success and growth
I track my habits and goals using a phone app. Tracking will take you out of the autopilot mode and into an aware and mindful living.
It is a very centering and grounding approach to life; to live everyday aware of how and why you are doing certain things and for what purpose.
Putting things into perspective. When you commit to your short term goals, you are more likely to have the life you have envisioned for yourself on the long run.
But because our life vision also includes our values, principles and beliefs; things that are subtle yet very powerful, we need to account for those as well when we paint our life vision.
Gandhi articulated this in very simple yet wise words:
“Your beliefs become your thoughts,
Your thoughts become your words,
Your words become your actions,
Your actions become your habits,
Your habits become your values,
Your values become your destiny.”
So what actions can you take to live by your values, and maintain an attitude that will bring about positive change?
- Surround yourself with the right people
- Engage in great conversations
- Eliminate gossip and judgement from your life
- Learn to say no to what doesn’t contribute to your growth
- Expand. Always Expand. Do not limit your growth
- Play. Playing can do a lot more for you than just fun. It raises your vibration and boosts your confidence and creativity!
Lastly, keep in mind that there will be those who are very supportive of your journey as well, so invest in these relationships and check in on them to see how YOU can contribute to their growth too.
Karma Works Beautifully when you are a cooperative element in the fabric of life
Be Curious Always,